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Kelly McGoncial   "How To Make Stress Your Friend" Research Study  showed that those who believed stress was harmful were 43% more likely to die. Those with the lowest risk, were not the ones who didn't experience stress, but those who didn't believe stress was harmful. Change mind -> changes body's response Stress as harmful mindset Interpret sweat & heart rate increase as harmful  causes blood vessels to constrict. causes high blood pressure causes heart disease If view stress as body preparing you to help rise to the challenge blood vessels stayed relaxed Oxytocin released in hugs -> stress resilience -> human connection neurohormone -> strengthens empathy, physical contact stress response -> nudging you to tell how you feel to others who care about you. anti-inflamatory helps heart cells regenerate, strengthens your heart Enhanced under social support Social People who cared for others created resili

Brene Brown “The Power of Vulnerability” Conventional research wisdom “If you can’t measure it, it doesn’t exist” “Lean into the discomfort” Connection = purpose & meaning people tend to focus on negative experiences Shame & fear => fear of disconnection I’m not smart/beautiful/etc. enough Excruciating vulnerability - 2 groupings Those with sense of worthiness, love & belonging, believe they are worthy Those who struggle with worthiness fear that we are not worthy of connection Wholehearted living from deep sense of worthiness Courage (from Latin cour=heart), tell who you are with whole heart, accept imperfect Compassion, first kind to themselves, then kind to others Connection => let go of who you should be Embraced Vulnerability Believed what made them vulnerable, made them beautiful Willingness to do something without guarantees Vulnerability birthplace of joy, creativity, and love