TED talks summary - "The Power of Vulnerability"
- Conventional research wisdom
- “If you can’t measure it, it doesn’t exist”
- “Lean into the discomfort”
- Connection = purpose & meaning
- people tend to focus on negative experiences
- Shame & fear => fear of disconnection
- I’m not smart/beautiful/etc. enough
- Excruciating vulnerability - 2 groupings
- Those with sense of worthiness, love & belonging, believe they are worthy
- Those who struggle with worthiness
- fear that we are not worthy of connection
- Wholehearted living
- from deep sense of worthiness
- Courage (from Latin cour=heart), tell who you are with whole heart, accept imperfect
- Compassion, first kind to themselves, then kind to others
- Connection => let go of who you should be
- Embraced Vulnerability
- Believed what made them vulnerable, made them beautiful
- Willingness to do something without guarantees
- Vulnerability
- birthplace of joy, creativity, and love
- we numb vulnerability to immunize against rejection, being turned down, getting layed off, etc.
- To avoid becoming vulnerable,
- we seek comfort
- in debt
- obesse
- addicted
- medicated
- We blame (a way to discharge pain & discomfort)
- We make uncertain into certain, because of fear, which leads to polarization
- We perfect
- Demand perfection from children, who are imperfect but wired for struggle. We take away their struggle.
- We pretend
- If we numb emotions like hard feelings, then we also numb other feelings like joy & happiness
- Way out
- Kinder and gentler to ourselves
- Kinder to others
- Practice gratitude and joy rather than catastrophizing
- Let ourselves be seen
- “I am enough”
- Love with our whole hearts.
She also has books on Amazon, such as:
I was introduced to Brené through the Gifts of Imperfection, which inspired me to take her self-compassion course with Kristin Neff. It has transformed my life.
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